by Frank | Mar 3, 2025 | Awareness, Daily Practice, Meditation, Mindless
While I often talk about mindlessness, I want to acknowledge that there are also deeply mindful moments woven into our everyday lives—sometimes in the most unexpected ways.
Every morning, I rise early for my daily practice, accompanied by a warm cup of tea. Without fail, my sleepy beagle puppy eventually drags herself into the room, eyes half-closed, and with an endearing determination, she hops up to join me. She expects a big, heartfelt hug before curling up beside me, resting her head gently on my lap, and drifting back into her dreams.
My favorite moments are when she enters the dream world so vividly that her little feet twitch as if she’s chasing something, accompanied by a soft, whisper-like baying sound woven into her snores.
This morning, I paused and truly noticed how much joy her simple presence brings me. On days when she sleeps in and doesn’t join me, I genuinely miss her company. Yet my heart can’t help but smile when she interrupts my routine—leaping onto my right side, casually strolling over my books and papers, and finally settling contentedly on my left.
Her companionship is a lesson in mindfulness. She doesn’t just sit quietly beside me; she anchors me in the present moment. Even when I’m deep in thought, her gentle presence pulls me back to the now, wrapped in warmth and love.
She has an uncanny ability to sense when I need comfort. Without hesitation, she jumps up beside me, leans her small body into my chest, and patiently waits for a hug. What makes me chuckle is that she often lets out a little grumble as I embrace her—a sound that’s part protest, part affection—but she never pulls away. It’s as if she instinctively knows that, grumbles aside, that hug is exactly what I need.
Puppy joy is the best. It’s pure, unfiltered, and a beautiful reminder that mindfulness isn’t always about silence or solitude. Sometimes, it’s found in the soft sigh of a sleeping puppy, the warmth of an unexpected cuddle, or the simple act of being fully present with a friend—even if that friend has floppy ears and a wagging tail.
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by Sensei | Feb 9, 2025 | Book, Daily Practice, How to, Journey, Meditation, Mindful
Don’t know how to start meditation. Below are some simple steps to get started.
- Time – Give yourself some time where there is nothing you must do or nothing immediately next; 30 minutes should do, however, I would recommend no appointments for at least an hour away; since they are effectively another upcoming distraction.
- Paper – Get a pad of paper, your favorite pen – NO cell-phones, tablets, or computers allowed – I will explain why in a later post.
- Place – Find a comfortable place where there are no distractions – it maybe hard to find that at home or the office; so you may want to try a few different places. Did I mention no cell-phones, laptops, TVs, other noise if possible; something that is “white-noise” will be OK, if it doesn’t distract you and take your focus.
- Sit down – I recommend sitting, no specific posture at this point – although there are many benefits from sitting up straight, but don’t worry so much at this point.
- Breath – Just sit down and breath for a few breaths – in through the nose and out through the mouth. Don’t worry about anything else right now. Just breath.
- Write – If a thought comes to mind and stays there, write it down. As much or as little as feels right. The begin again, Breath.
- Repeat – Daily, if possible.
Give yourself about 5 to 10 minutes the 1st few times. The 30 minute recommendation above is only to help reduce distractions; if all you have is 15 minutes, a coffee break, time for a quick snack – use that.
Don’t worry about the right way or wrong way – that is not the point, practice will evolve over time.
For now just learn to get stuff, junk, thoughts, baggage, what-ever out of your mind – out of your Busy Mind and to get begin to cultivate a few moments each day for yourself
Repeat Daily – by repeating daily – you are beginning to train your brain. Yes – meditation is practice, but it is also training. It comes through repetition and through practice.
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by Frank | Feb 25, 2024 | Daily Practice, Meditation, Mindless
In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it’s easy to lose touch with my own mindfulness practice. I also find myself going through the motions, rather than truly engaging with my practice. If you’re feeling this way, it might be time to take a pause.
The Need for a Break
Taking a break from your daily practice is not a sign of failure or a lack of commitment. On the contrary, it’s an opportunity to renew and deepen your practice. Just as we need to rest our bodies to maintain physical health, we need to give our minds a chance to rest and rejuvenate.
Grounding Your Practice
During your break, take the time to ground your practice. This means reconnecting with the fundamental principles of mindfulness. Remind yourself of why you started this journey and what you hope to achieve. This grounding process can provide a fresh perspective and inspire you to pursue deeper insights.
Pursuing Deeper Insights
When you return to your practice, you may find that you’re able to delve deeper into your journey of discovery. With renewed energy and a grounded perspective, you’re better equipped to explore the intricacies of your mind and cultivate a deeper understanding of your experiences.
Conclusion
Remember, mindfulness is not a destination, but a journey. It’s okay to take a pause, ground your practice, and then continue on your path with renewed vigor. After all, the journey is just as important as the destination.
So, if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed – like I have recently, consider taking a break. You might be surprised at the depth and richness that awaits you when you return to your practice.
by Frank | Oct 18, 2021 | Journal, Journey, Meditation, Mindful, Mindless
A new friend explained why she was getting a divorce…
“I finally realized that I loved myself 30%,” she sighed, “and he only loved me 40%…and I couldn’t take the abuse anymore…”
I’ve meditated on this idea over the past months.
The truth was simple, her negative self-worth and her lack of self-love, along with many other self-limiting believes had “cheated” her into an abusive relationship.
In short, he loved her just a little more than she loved herself; and while it was enough to get started, it wasn’t enough to sustain her.
Maybe this story resonates with you? Maybe it’s your story too!
Maybe it’s not your partner, maybe it’s an abusive “friend” or a member of your “family” or another person in your life.
It’s taken decades to begin accepting myself, especially those broken and unwanted parts. I came to realize that lack of self-acceptance, self-worth, and self-love played a major role in all the relationships in my life.
Especially, the abusive and broken relationships.
The more I embrace all my parts; the more I have come to accept and be okay with the person I am.
It was this awareness, that the broken and unwanted me needs love too; that has allowed me to love myself more and from this love, embrace those broken parts of others.
It’s from my own self-acceptance that my self-worth has grown, and from this self-worth that my self-love has grown too; and, so my acceptance, worth and love of all those around me.
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Journal and Meditation Practice
Spend time writing a list of those broken and unloved parts of you. Give yourself time to detail each.
Over the next month and without any rush; meditate on each, feel the emotions, and say “I love you too” as throughout the meditation.
Realize that all the parts of you, everything in your journey so far is what it has taken for your awareness to emerge.
In reality, these are not broken parts, these are lessons along your life’s journey; and it took those lessons to get you here.
by Sensei | Sep 26, 2021 | Awareness, How to, Journal, Meditation, Mindless
Be honest, does your brain constantly chatter?
Sometimes, my brain does and it is so annoying.
However, these mind-loops are a rich source of information about your internal and emotional landscapes.
Especially those that are playing in the middle of the night or when you first wake. Which is another reason to meditate first thing in the morning.
Become curious of you mind-loops, observe them, when they come and when they go.
Become a student of your mind. Become aware…
Journal: In the coming week, try to capture, at least partly, the “mind loops,” the internal storm that is raging.
For each mind-loop write:
- A short description of each story.
- What kicked event started the mind-loop?
- What is the story behind the mind-loop?
- What is the emotion behind the mind-loop? Is it fear, ego, anger?
- What, if any, action can you take to resolve?
Often by awareness, observing, and analyzing, the lessor mind-loops will disappear.
If the mind-loops become overwhelming, try How to breathe and relax.
Focusing on your breath will temporarily stop the loop and help with managing your anxiety.
Those remaining are often deeper and maybe a reason to consider talking with a professional; especially, if they dominate your day and are a roadblock keeping you from being productive or keeping you from living life fully.
by Sensei | Sep 8, 2021 | How to, Meditation, Mindful
Just breathe slowly for the first few moments without any rush.
Next, for a count of 5, slowly inhale through the nose, filling your lungs from the bottom upwards.
Then, for a count of 7, slowly exhale through the mouth.
Repeat for 20 cycles.
The goal is to make the exhale slightly longer than the inhale.
